How to Decide When You Can’t Decide

Jun 20, 2019 | Doing Life

Should I take the job down the street that is low pressure and lower pay or should I take the higher pay and more challenging job downtown?

Should we move to be closer to my parents or stay here so the kids don’t have to change schools?

Should we spend the money to get a newer car or just keep paying repairs on this one?

Should I stay with my husband or should I leave him?

Should I invest money into my mental and emotional health or just keep doing what I’m doing and hope for the best?


We use a lot of energy when we overcomplicate decisions, deliberate too long, or over-research every possible option. Not only does it use a ton of energy, this behavior keeps us stuck in indecision.  We labor over options. We tell our friends all the pros and cons. We ask lots of people to weigh in and they all have different answers, leaving us more confused. The result? We can’t decide.


I was talking with a friend of mine at a parade the other day. I asked him how his job as supervisor on the county seat was going. He lamented that all the other supervisors likely thought he was impatient. I asked why. He explained that the other supervisors could easily go on for hours, talking in circles about the potential possibilities of how to address the issues at hand, regurgitating what they already knew, spinning their wheels. And, he went on, all too often my friend would feel compelled to hit the Call to Question button. This button being pushed would require the superfluous debate to end and for the board to move for a decision to be made. He wasn’t impatient. He could just tell when the considering of options had past the point of usefulness.


You know what I think? I think we need to hit the Call to Question button on our own brains. Seriously, it’s like a bunch of bombastic politicians up there sometimes, debating every possibility and never making a decision to move forward. This, my friend, leaves you stuck.


Want to know a secret? Usually, there is no right or wrong decision. No matter what you choose, it doesn’t ever have to be wrong. Isn’t that a relief? Our judgement of whether our decisions are right or wrong, is really just an opinion—a thought. So, why not just decide to think that all your decisions are right?  Every decision you have made all your life has gotten you to where you are today, which is exactly where you are supposed to be. Your life is unfolding exactly as it should for your own growth and maturing. And guess what, God knew too. He has good plans for you. Plans for you to prosper. He knew all the choices you would make, and he has prepared you for this.


And for today… how to decide when you can’t decide. Whatever decision you face that you have told yourself you can’t decide on yet, or you’re just not sure about yet… you have all the information you need. Hit that Call to Question button and get on with it already. I promise the decision you make will be the exact right one for you.


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